Purging our tendencies and what to do instead

I only realised over the last couple of years that I'm a hidden perfectionist. I had no idea!

If you looked at my messy desk, the coffee stain on my T-shirt and the state of my garage you wouldn't possibly think I was anywhere near being perfectionist. I didn't think so either.

I'm going to ask you a handful of questions and answer honestly!

1. Do you ever avoid or postpone tasks where there's a risk you might fail?

2. Are you more concerned about what you haven't achieved than what you have achieved?

3. Do you harshly criticise yourself when you don't meet your standards?

4. Do you judge your self-worth by the achievements or tasks you've completed?

5. Do you ever discount your achievements because you feel you could have done better?

6. Do you fear failure?

7. Do you ever push yourself to the point of feeling depressed, overwhelmed or exhausted?

If you answered YES to any of the above, then I have news for you - you have perfectionist tendencies.

Don't get me wrong, some perfectionism is healthy. But the type us ADHDers often veer towards definitely isn't.

 The consequences can be serious - health risks, burnout, damaged relationships. It's time we really got under the hood of this challenging topic.